Whether it’s finding what you’re passionate about, or figuring out how you can live that dream life and do what you always wished you could, I am here to support you in getting results in your life.
The truth is, I was just like you. I never had that unwavering certainty of who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do - you know, that certainty that some people have when they seem to already have their path figured out at 10-years-old. But growing up in a small town on the Canadian prairies, I knew there was more for me then what I was experiencing.
I was affectionately known as “the difficult child” in my family, with a claim to fame of being a fussy, stubborn, VERY independent and maybe even having to be the centre of attention a time or two. To me, it just felt like I saw things a little bit differently than everyone else, and I didn’t like it when people told me I shouldn’t or couldn’t do what I wanted to do. I wanted to make life happen for me in a way that I was often told wasn’t possible or wasn’t what I should be doing. It felt like the way I wanted my life to happen didn’t make sense to anyone else, and many of my choices and actions were always the unpopular ones, or the ones that “weren’t possible”. I can’t fault my parents, since being a middle class family with 4 kids in small town Saskatchewan doesn't really allow for letting your kids do everything and anything they want. Even though I grew up with a lot of them, I didn't want to live a life of limits. I felt like there just had to be more possibilities available to me.
As I moved from childhood through my teenage years and into adulthood, the pressure society put on me to be “realistic” got to me. As a teenager, I went through a phase of not feeling good enough because I had no idea who I was and who I wanted to be. That led to a lot of floundering and a not so healthy self-esteem that I carried with me a long time, but luckily I had two amazing parents, and three siblings who were leading the way for me to grow, learn, be better and achieve more as I continued in my life. It was a life that wasn’t really the dream full of possibilities that I had imagined, but a dream that myself and many dreamers that have come before me have fallen into. It was definitely the path I was meant to be on, going to University, changing my degree three times in the process to find the right fit and finally, five and a half years after graduating high school and university, I was ready to embark on my “reality” of an 8-5 job, working my way up into what appeared to me to be a pretty predictable future.
Needless to say, it didn’t feel quite right. I loved the learning that came with a new career and new opportunities, but I still didn’t feel like I was in the right place or doing what I was supposed to be doing.
I suppose, albeit subconsciously, I was asking the Universe for a change, and a change it gave me. My Father, the leader of our family and one of the best “Leaders” in life that I have ever known, passed away unexpectedly in a surgery that was supposed to fix him up and make him better. Even though he’d been sick for some time before that, losing him and his guidance in my life was never an option that was possible in my mind, and that loss left an unimaginable hole in my life.
A few weeks later, I found out that I was expecting my first child, a journey that I was embarking on as a single mother. This offered some reprieve from the hunt for purpose, as I knew I just needed to be the healthiest person I possibly could for this new life. Single motherhood was jam packed full of purpose, with all the sleep deprivation and new learnings and activities that come along with a newborn, but it mostly felt like a new start, and a gift that I desperately needed in my life. One that came with a brand new guardian angel of my Dad as the new and continual voice in my head. I just wanted to live a life that would make him proud, and woke up every day with that thought in my head.
Through all the joys and purpose that motherhood provided, I was still feeling like there was something more for me. I met a wonderful man who is now my fiancé, and at the same time started another full-time, Monday to Friday office job in Human Resources that was a great opportunity with all the career and personal development opportunities it offered, and all was right in the world.
Wrong. I realized very quickly that no matter how hard I tried to stifle that feeling of knowing there was something more for me, it kept sneaking in and nagging at me to take a chance on myself and BE MYSELF. I tried transforming my health and fitness and lost 35 lbs, thinking that the way I looked and felt would be the answer for me because I would love life because I looked great and felt great! Well it didn’t quite work out that way. It became more of an obsession and masking of what I really needed to do, and that was to quit telling myself that “if I do ‘A’ I will be happy”, and start digging deeper to really and truly live a happy life. Maybe you can relate.
I remember the day I found coaching - a stranger on LinkedIn added me as a contact and when I looked at her profile, and I saw she was in the Human Resources field like I was, but that she also had a coaching credential. That peaked my curiosity - a sign that I needed to look into it further. After doing some research, sitting in on some information sessions, and finding what programs and training existed out there, I realized that this was not only exactly what I needed in my life, it was something that I wanted to do for others.
Coaching has allowed me to clear out all of the stories and dialogue that has been told to me about who I should be and what I should want, and finally get clear about what it is I really want. I knew then that my purpose was to help others find this clarity for themselves and help them deliver on it. And that leaves me here. With you.
Thank you for allowing me to be a part of that journey with you.
"Planning sessions with Lead Your Way Coaching has helped me stay accountable and consistent. Being a creative person, I sometimes struggle with a loss of vision. I can get caught up in setting goals and feel defeated when I don't complete them to the letter. In my initial sessions with Paula I felt that she took the time to change her coaching template to augment those chaotic parts of me. Instead of prioritizing tasks to make me more efficient, she reminded me why I even do the things I do. The changes I've made because of these sessions are invaluable to me and I am grateful for the opportunity." - Richelle Dahl, Owner, Dahling Productions
After completing high school I attended the University of Lethbridge. At first I didn’t know what I wanted to do, so I tried a few majors: vocal performing arts, kinesiology and sport, and finally settling on sports administration and marketing with the end goal of getting into social marketing and health promotion. My goal of getting a job in health promotion was put on hold when I found the job pickings were slim, and since living at home with my parents wasn’t an option, I just needed to find a job. I felt very fortunate to get a great job as a Communications Assistant at a natural gas company, so my NEW passion was to make a difference through communications. A growth opportunity came up in the company, and I tried my hand at being a Training Coordinator where I could still have a net positive effect on people by assisting with their training. While on that journey, life happened (SEE ABOVE), and that led to a little hiatus from the career world. My re-entry into the working world was into a very rewarding role as a “Jill of all Trades”, Human Resources generalist at a Retail of 135 employees in my hometown. In October 2015 I was looking for something more for me, and I began my coach training with Erickson Coaching International. I am now a proud Erickson alumni, a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and working towards my first ICF credential while living my passion as a Success Coach.
"I was fortunate to work with Paula as my coach during a time when I was in a state of self-doubt and struggling to find balance between work and family. I found Paula’s coaching to be unique, she had a way to show empathy when it was needed but also had the skills to lead me through obstacles I would often want to run away from. With her coaching I feel stronger and more aware of where and what I want to be, do and have in my life." - Angela Cullen, Owner, Anytime Fitness Kindersley